Rather than letting a problem happen over and over again take time to pause and think through the best way to respond:
In a healthy relationship, you should feel:
- Take a step back from how you react or how you normally react.
- Think calmly. What is the best way to respond?
‘Tune’ in to what is happening
- What is going on for your children? How are they feeling?
- What is going on for you as a parent? How are you feeling?
Make a plan
- What is the best way to respond?
- What has worked well in the past?
Prevention Plan
- What will you do to prevent this problem happening again?
- How will you teach your child the skills they need?
Step by Step Plan
- When the problem happens, how will you deal with this?
- What will you do next if it continues?
Ref: Parents Plus 2016
