Research shows that knowing what’s going on in your child’s life, knowing where they are, and knowing their friends and their friend’s parents all have a protective effect.
Use opportunities such as events on television or celebrity pregnancies to open up a discussion about romantic relationships. It is important that they understand the difference between healthy romantic relationships in real life and relationships that are presented in some TV programmes and celebrity magazines.
Start early by answering questions from pre-teenage children in an open and age appropriate way. This makes it more likely that they will talk to you when they’re older teenagers.
Do things together like going for a walk or a drive, where you can talk privately without being interrupted or overheard.
Try to find out what they know and what they want to know. Ask them about what they are learning in school or if their friends have girlfriends or boyfriends.
Encourage your child to think about their own values and talk to them about your values. This helps them to develop their own limits and boundaries.
Remember talking to your teenager about sex ‘is not an event, it’s a process’ and will take place over many conversations.
For children with additional needs you may need to use visuals to assist with the conversation.
Ref: www.childline.ie/sexuality-and-relationships
Useful websites:
www.sexualwellbeing.ie www.healthpromotion.ie www.b4udecide.ie
